You can be quiet, shy, passive, apologetic, or you can allow someone else to do your talking for you. But if you don't communicate what it is you need, you won't receive the assistance you need in the most effective manner. On the other hand. . .
You can get angry, push your way through, blame others for your problems, demand your rights . . . and you still won't receive the assistance you need in the most effective manner.
The most effective communication style is Assertive Communication.
- Assertive people tell others what they want and need. They decide what it is they need to get out of their communication and they express that purpose.
- They take personal responsibility for their own lives. That means they don't count on their parents to advocate for them, and they don't blame their instructor when they don't do well in a class.
- They do not demand. They make requests in a clear but courteous manner.
- They know their rights but
- They do not expect their rights to replace the rights of others.
- They do not allow other people to do everything for them.
How much should you tell your instructors about your disability?
Tell them only what they need to know to accommodate your disability. This may include:
- Emergency medical information
- How your disability may affect your performance in that class.
- What accommodations you are allowed for that class.
You want to refrain from giving your instructor unnecessary information. Also, you do not need to tell them what type of disability you have. You decide when it is appropriate to give that information, and to whom.